How to make stress your friend video review

http://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend




It seems like she is trying to make an argument for why stress is not bad for you when what she is really doing is saying that stress is bad for you so a good coping mechanism is to think positive when you feel stress, which will lessen the stress, and which will in turn reduce your physical symptoms (which cause chronic illness). I don't think she has said anything new here, she just repeated what she said at the beginning ("stress is bad for you") in a different way, and offered coping mechanisms.
Your body doesn't think it's way out of stress (your body doesn't think - you do). But if you choose to stress yourself out about feeling stressed than the bodily effect (which has health consequences) is much longer lasting. I did not hear an argument for why stress is not bad for you, only that how you deal with stress defines how stress effects you. That is not new information.
ps: you don't give more to other people when you feel more stressed, you just seek social support for self-preservation. Those people who are less stressed are more capable of giving to other people because they are more able to think about other people. And the giving, in turn, leads to less stress. Another coping mechanism.